HOW WE MET

Kara & Wyatt

Kara and Wyatt met in 2016 and married one year later. 

Both in their late 50s at the time, life gave them a second chance at love, and they took it.  

Each had tragically lost their 30+ year spouses to cancer, four years before they met and within three months of the other.  

“When we got together, we noticed that we were, and now still are, psychically and synchronistically connected in magical ways,” says Kara.  

They found out they had lived their lives within nine Vancouver city blocks of one another, and while they had mutual acquaintances and interests, their paths had never crossed.

After taking time to grieve the sudden loss of her beloved husband, Kara knew she wanted another committed relationship. She realized that after her long marriage, she was “out of practice” in the dating world, so she prepared herself by first venturing into online dating. During this time, she also let her friends know she was interested in meeting a new partner.

Unexpectedly – and coincidentally – Kara’s friend, an oncologist, who had supported her husband to his end-of-life and had also cared for Wyatt’s wife to her end, ran into him in a downtown office elevator. During a coffee catch-up and check-in with him a few weeks later, she asked if he was dating. When Wyatt responded that he was ready to move in that direction, she offered to pass his phone number on to Kara.

Five years later, and happily together, Kara and Wyatt agree that because they were both widowed, understood that loss, and had experienced long, successful relationships, they both wanted that again.  

They also quickly realized they shared plenty of common interests and travelled well together, so they took the plunge.  

While they “live” together and are committed to their marriage, they maintain separate homes, 10 minutes apart. “It works,” says Kara, “because he-does-him and I-do-me in our professional roles, and then we come together under one roof for our personal relationship.”

“We also understand, respect and have room for the other’s loss,” they say, “while we live our special relationship forward.”

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