HOW TO PREPARE FOR A MOVE TO A RETIREMENT RESIDENCE

My dad imagined that he’d live in his cozy bungalow with his beloved wife forever, but far sooner than expected, Mom passed away, and he found himself alone. Family, neighbours and church friends did their best to help, but it became increasingly apparent that if he was going to thrive, he needed to move into a less isolating environment. My sister and I searched for a retirement residence with the right location, amenities, friendliness, health support and cost for him.

Through tears, Dad agreed that moving into the retirement residence was the best choice for him at that point. He would be able to live independently but could share meals and activities with other people on a regular basis, without the responsibilities of maintaining a house and yard. Preparation for the move began that day, and was followed by a flurry of garage sales, donations, packing, and the sale of his home with lots of help from family and friends.

WHO CAN BE OF ASSISTANCE WITH YOUR MOVE?
Once a residence has been chosen, there are many variables to consider. Practical and emotional support will be needed throughout the process. Although moving at any stage of life can be challenging, with careful planning and the appropriate assistance, it doesn’t need to be overwhelming.

Family, friends and professionals can share roles and responsibilities throughout the process.

Financial planner – Trusted bank and/or investment advisors can help simplify the facts. They will look at your economic situation, such as basic government pensions, savings, investments, workplace pensions, tax credits and exemptions, medical expenses or other relevant details. How much income do you have and how much will you need to manage? This will impact which retirement residence will be appropriate for you.

Realtor – Homeowners will need to find a trusted realtor. If you don’t have a realtor, consider recommendations from friends or family, or use Google and Rank or Rate Your Agent to search for an expert in your neighbourhood.

Legal advisors – A trusted legal advisor can assist with the formalities of selling your home, and any other questions you may have. If you don’t have an advisor, you can contact the Canadian Bar Association’s Lawyer Referral Service.

Downsizing – Unless you have purposefully reduced your belongings, there may be a big task ahead. The size of your new space will impact decisions on what can be consigned, donated, or kept, and seniors’ moving services can help in this process. They have experience and can strategically help sort, pack and unpack.

Movers – These professionals have experience transporting possessions, but you may want to have a different plan to move precious heirlooms or fragile objects. Movers can be found through your local Senior’s Information Line.

Counsellors – Change can be unsettling and stressful. If, at any point in this journey, you need to talk to an unbiased, kindly counsellor about your concerns, the 211 Safe Senior’s Information Line can provide local contacts.

Facilitators, staff and residents at the retirement residence

When my father toured the retirement residence, his questions were answered by a facilitator, friendly staff, and other residents. After he moved in, staff and residents helped him adjust to his new home and life. A similar ‘team’ approach is taken at other retirement residences. For tours, contact the residences you’re considering about updated protocols now that more and more BC residents are vaccinated.

Parties, entertainment, outings and vibrant social times are slowly resuming, and brighter days are ahead.

After a short adjustment period, Dad happily settled into his residence. During one visit, I found him laughing with new friends over coffee and muffins. Seeing him happy again was a gift I’ll never forget.

While a move to a retirement residence can feel daunting and emotional, with careful planning, it may be right for you.

• 211 Safe Senior 24-hour line, dial 2-1-1 or visit online at https://bc211.ca/help-lines

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